I know a lot of you are thinking about or are in the process of transitioning your hair from relaxed to natural. In order to offer a bit of insight and encouragement, I thought I’d share my natural hair journey with you all. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, fret not. Stick around and at the very least you’ll get a good laugh and some black mail worthy photos.
I decided as a 2013 New Year’s resolution that I wanted to step away from the creamy crack (a.k.a. relaxer) for good. With absolutely no research or a single clue what I was doing, I bid my hairdresser adieu. Things were going fine until about 6 weeks in (just about relaxer time) when my hair became, let’s say,unmanageable. I quickly went to YouTube looking for anyone that could help a sista out. I quickly took to twist outs because I was am a lousy braider. I transitioned for a little under a year using twist outs and perm rods exclusively.
On November 10, 2013 I finally did my big chop. I had yet another failed twist out and I was already running late for church. I was so aggravated that I just grabbed some scissors and that was it. My relaxed ends were gone. More specifically, they were scattered around the bathroom floor. I couldn’t stop staring at myself in the mirror. What did I just do? Has my head always been this big? What are people gonna think? What’s my mom gonna think? Oh my god. I forgot about my mom! I think I was so terrified of what my mom was gonna say that I completely forgot about anything else. As I creeped down the stairs I said, “Mom, I did a thing. Please don’t be mad.”
“Did you cut your hair?” she asked.
“Yes,” I murmured.
“Let me see,” she said. I made my way down the rest of the stairs and when I finally stood before her she just looked at me. It felt like it was an eternity before she said anything. I just wanted her to yell at me already. “That’s cute, I guess,” she finally said. That’s it? Seriously? Yell at me, woman! But, she never did. I soon found no one was reacting the way I expected at all. My friends at church barely even noticed. Most people barely noticed really, and the people who did only had positive things to say. I felt so confident after my big chop to tell you the truth. I wore heals more often. I rocked a bright red lip. I can admit, I was kinda feeling myself! I felt like a completely different person.
I was amazed at how quickly my hair grew. By spring I was out of the TWA (teeny weeny afro) stage and into the awkward medium length phase. At this point I actually had to start doing things to my hair such as styling and deep conditioning. Like every other natural on the planet, I became a product junkie. I was always looking for the perfect product to moisturize and accentuate my curls. I think the most fulfilling part of my journey (so far) has been the versatility of natural hair.
I’ve done blowouts (Let’s not talk about it…)
Hair color (That I’m not so proud of…)
And hair color that I still rock today
It’s certainly been a journey but I have loved every minute of it! If you’re thinking of transitioning, DO IT! If you’re in the process, keep up the good work! It’s so worth it. Going natural gave me confidence that I didn’t even know I was capable of having. It’s not just hair, it’s a lifestyle. I’m completely committed to it and not once have I regretted it. You won’t either!
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